“For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.”
– Nelson Mandela
Boundaries. I give you permission to say no. I give you permission to create boundaries. I will strive to honor you in this. So many of us have been raised that saying no was disrespectful, that speaking up was disrespectful, that questions were disrespectful.
That. Is. Not. True.
Your boundaries create safety. They create trust. They create powerful connection. People know where they stand with you. And they know that their interactions with you real. Eggshells are non-existent.
Brendan Burchard recommended an exercise of for 24 hours, no matter what someone asks of you, to say no. We are so accustomed to saying yes to every whim of every person. Burnout is real. And is not healthy. When you say no, you give other people permission to do the same, allowing for them to be more healthy, emotionally strong, and resilient.
Practice boundaries. They are scary. They can be hard; at first. And then they can be easy. I love you. Enhance others freedom by your example.
-Benjamin Beals, Session 3 Director